Greed

First off I hate greedy people. And this is nothing to do with shelf clearers. My husband was talking to a friend and they were discussing on how we were taking a bike to Salvation Army because our child was done with it. So my DH brings him in to see the stock pile of groceries we were going to give to the Morning Star Mission on Sat. So he(the friend) starts saying on how his paycheck was going to be short. So we were like okay take some food to help you get through. He took 5 boxes of brownies, 11 cans of progresso, 12 things of razors(the mvp and quattro), 5 rolls of Scotts pt, some campbell soup, 6 tubes of toothpaste, some other brownies, and some other things...like 8 bags full of food. This then left me with two small bags. Both my DH and I have a hard time saying no but come on we even told him where it was going to go to and what they did(feed homeless people.. it has a homeless shelter there) and this guy was only going to be short on this PAYCHECK. Then he went on to say that his daughter was getting the link card(preg and no job, living at home). I am sorry but they aren't that needy. Maybe I am over reacting but anywho. So I went off and printed off more coupons and got $160+ groceries for less than $20 to restock what was taken. Sorry to vent but really needed to.

P.S. I believe in Karma so what goes around comes around :)


I'd have taken the stuff to

I'd have taken the stuff to whatever pantry you were going to donate it to, then referred the friend there or to a similar one for help.

I discovered this site to help stretch a significantly reduced household income that's a result of the current economic situation, but haven't had to turn to food pantries or mooching off friends. Haven't slashed my budget like Jill or some others, but have made significant cuts. Everything helps.

Thanks to Jill and everyone else here!

KtK...

I read this & thought to myself "That coulda been me!" I have one family member who, given the opportunity, would have done exactly what your "friend" did. BUT #1 rule (to me)--DON'T show off the stockpile!! and/or DON'T keep the ENTIRE stockpile in one place. This is what I do if I know someone needs something. I ask them "Hey, do need x & y & z?" If they say yes, I will gladly go & grab them 1 or 2 (or however many I can spare & think they can reasonably use) of that item & throw it in a bag. There is no "pick out what you want" in my house--for your exact reason above-greed. When they run out, they can ask for more--and then we can "barter" for it :)

Agree! out of sight, out of mind!

My pantry is actually in my basement - shelving by the washer/dryer, so no one ever sees the stockpile except maybe my sister or brother-in-law if they are watching the kids - and they both know that I work HARD to get my deals. I've got a modest stockpile, I only bought 8 PTs this round - no intention of getting any more, for example. During the wesson oil fiasco, I bought 5 - just delayed getting them down to the shelves, so people questioned why did I have 5 oils (they were on my back porch where people usually come & go). Gave 1 to my best friend & my sister, just because they'd do the same if they had extras, but it's harder for people to "mooch" when the goods are out of site. I'll get extra salad dressing for my salad-loving parents when there's a good deal, but I can't think of anyone who would take advantage of the stockpile & literally go grocery-shopping!!!! WOW.

WHAT?

12 things of razors? What are they going to do with 12 razors before he gets his next paycheck!

I have it both ways!! I tend

I have it both ways!! I tend to be an over-giver so I can't complain. I usually end up giving more away and wishing I had a couple more left.

But my sister (who is always welcome to help herself in my house), brought her friend over and while I was outside, she loaded up bags for her friend....SOME OF WHICH WEREN'T A SUPERCOUPONING ITEM!! They came out and said "I hope you don't mind". Whaaaaaaaaaaaaat????????

On the other hand, my dear Grandma keeps trying to give me $50 everytime I bring her some things that were "on free" at the store. I keep telling her if she gave me the money, it would cost her less to go pay full price at the store. I guess it all evens out.

Thank you

It did help me get it off my chest. I will also have to keep in mind that they will pay the next time. Thank you for your support everyone.

Yep...

People think that is up for grabs, it's alot of work and time involved with the coupon game. So I don't blame you for cringing a bit...if he really needed it.... sure, but sounds like that's questionable. It nice to be able to be more generous when you coupon by some will take advantage. KtK8706 I hope you feel better just blogging about it....sometimes that really does help plus it sounds like you rebounded nicely.

I understand

I think there is a preconceived notion among non-couponers that because we paid next to nothing for our stockpiles, they're free for the taking.

I have a friend who had a baby and kept asking me for diapers because she was "short on cash" (yet they had every pay cable channel known to man, went out to dinner regularly, etc.) But she knew I had a large stockpile of diapers. Well... yes, I had a lot. But I stocked up on them during great sales for my OWN child, who is still in diapers.

Moochers

I've developed my own method of dealing with these couponless moochers. You know, the ones who ooh and aah over all the "stuff" you have in your personal grocery store and are enthralled by your stories of magical cats. You try to teach them the way to do the deals, websites, etc. and think they're gonna do just fine. You give them bags to help them along. Several weeks later turns out they haven't done anything. Can they come over and pick up some things from you? Sure, I'll give them a great discount, but no more freebies. Not only did I cut the coupons out of the papers I purchased, I drove to the store, shopped and brought the stuff home. And let's not forget the tax man. If they want you to do their grocery shopping, then you should get paid for it.

LAZY SHOPPERS

I just turned 73 and I am going in for a new hip next week ! And if I can do a bunch of deals whats their excuse ? Even tho you guys are younger you have kids and a more demanding life then me and my husband now. So I know how hard all this is ! Only all of us knows what goes into being successful on our Quests for catalina's .
So hang on to your rewards and give them only to deserving people. Cause lazy people will want it without any effort on their part. If we can do it !! So can they :)

Love your posts...

Joan, you always are so to the point and you make a good point at that! I hope your surgery goes well!

Way to Go Joan

I'm 72 and sometimes I'm really tired after lugging and storing and giving away to the pantries. Sure makes you happy though, doesn't it? The ungrateful "takers" will never know the fun of being the "giver". Best of luck with the hip replacement. I am sure that you will be back in the stores as quick as possible. That is probably the best therapy there could be.

Fortunately in my circle

of friends, family and coworkers, they know the work it takes to do this. I have given them items free in the past. Now I ask "hey do you need this, that...etc." I'll pick it up and more often than not, they pay me back with a little more because of the time, gas, tax and effort I put into it. There's just a few relatives that I can't wait to see their faces on Xmas when they open their gift baskets. Chances are there will be comments on how I hardly paid anything for them and they had to pay more for the gifts they have given. But it won't bother me, it's the thought that counts!

I know what you mean

about the gift baskets....the people I might give them to know that I'm a super couponer and that I may not have paid much for all the items in the basket....where as the gifts they give me, they probably paid way too much (IMO). As for giving friends freebies from my "stash"...I make up goody bags for the people that give me their coupons each week. They love them! They have no idea what I really buy with their Q's, so they are really grateful for their goodys!!! And I feel good, too, that I can repay them in some way.

How about the time involved?

I will bet that they didn't spend as much time picking out your gift as you spent obtaining the items to put their basket together.